The fourth trimester: the time after birth
You've just completed three trimesters of pregnancy, each with its own challenges and changes. But what happens now that baby is born? Welcome to the fourth trimester!
The fourth trimester refers to the first three months after birth, when your baby is still adjusting to life outside the womb, and you are adjusting to life as a new mom. It's a time of immense physical, emotional, and social changes for both of you. And it's not always easy. Here are some things to remember during this time:
Your baby is adjusting to life on the outside. Your little one has just left the familiar, cozy, warmth of your womb and entered a world full of new sights, sounds, and sensations. They may cry a lot, want to be held all the time, or have trouble sleeping. Skin-to-skin contract, cuddles, soothing sounds, gentle rocking, and swaddling can help soothe baby as they adapt to their new world.
Your body is recovering. Your body is a remarkable thing, but after nine months of pregnancy and childbirth, it takes time to heal. Don't rush yourself or compare yourself to others. Give yourself space for this process and don’t be afraid to seek help from those around you.
You need sleep. Sleep deprivation is a common challenge for many newborn parents. You might find it hard to get enough sleep or quality sleep due to your baby's feeding schedule, diaper changes, or fussiness. Lack of sleep can make you feel exhausted, cranky, forgetful, or even depressed. Try to nap when your baby naps, ask for help from others when possible, and create a relaxing bedtime routine for yourself and your baby.
Breastfeeding can be challenging. If you choose to breastfeed your baby, you may encounter some challenges in the beginning. You may have sore nipples, engorgement, mastitis, low milk supply, or latch issues. These can be frustrating and painful but can be overcome with proper guidance and support. Ask for help from a lactation consultant, nurse, doctor, or peer support group if you have any problems or questions about breastfeeding your baby.
Emotions are okay. After giving birth, your body goes through a dramatic hormonal shift that can cause mood swings, irritability, crying spells, anxiety, and many other emotions. This is normal and common, and it usually gets better within a few weeks. But these can also be signs of postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety, which are serious conditions that require professional help. If you feel like your mood is interfering with your daily functioning or affecting your bond with your baby, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional.
Parenting isn’t one size fits all. There are many ways to parent, and there is no one right way. You might have a lot of questions and doubts about how to feed, bathe, dress, soothe, play with, or stimulate your baby. You might also feel pressured or influenced by what other people say or do, such as your family, friends, doctors, books, or social media. The best way to parent is to trust your instincts and do what feels right for you and your baby.
Ask for help and support. The fourth trimester is a challenging time for many moms as they adjust to life with a new baby. It's important to remember that you are not alone in this journey and that you can reach out for help and support when you need it. And most importantly, it's important to remember that you are an amazing mom and that you are doing a great job.
