Navigating friendships as a new mom

Motherhood can be challenging, exhausting and isolating. Many new moms struggle to maintain their friendships while adjusting to their new role and responsibilities. How can you keep your friends close and nurture your social life as a new mom? Here are some tips to help you navigate friendships after having a baby. 

Be honest and realistic. Don't expect your friends to understand everything you're going through, especially if they don't have kids themselves. But don't shut them out either. Share your feelings, challenges and achievements with them, and let them know what kind of support you need. At the same time, be realistic about your availability and energy levels. Don't overcommit to plans that you might have to cancel or reschedule. Set boundaries and prioritize your own well-being and your baby's needs. 

Stay in touch. Even if you can't meet up in person as often as before, try to stay connected with your friends through phone calls, texts, emails or social media. Send them photos or videos of your baby, or ask them how they're doing. You can also join online groups or forums for new moms, where you can find people who share your experiences and challenges. Staying in touch can help you feel less lonely and more supported. 

Make new friends. While it's important to keep your old friends, it can also be helpful to make new ones who are in the same stage of life as you. You can meet other new moms at prenatal classes, postnatal groups, baby activities or playgrounds. You can also use apps or websites that connect moms based on their location, interests or parenting style. Making new friends can give you a sense of belonging and community, as well as provide you with practical advice and tips. 

Schedule quality time. When you do have the opportunity to meet up with your friends, make it count. Choose activities that are fun, relaxing and meaningful for both of you. You can go for a walk, have a coffee, watch a movie or do something else that you enjoy. You can also invite your friends over to your place, or ask them to babysit while you go out for a date night or a spa day. Scheduling quality time can help you strengthen your bond and recharge your batteries. 

Be flexible and open-minded. Friendships can change over time, especially when life circumstances change. Some of your friends may drift away, while others may become closer. Don't take it personally if some of your friends are less available or interested in your life as a new mom. Instead, focus on the ones who are supportive and loyal. You may also discover new aspects of yourself and your friends that you didn't know before. Be flexible and open-minded about how your friendships evolve and grow as a new mom.